In Proverbs there is a caution against flatter, but affirmation isn’t flattery. Flattery is when words are used to manipulate someone; affirmation is for the sake of the hearer and is so powerful. We have so many negative tapes that are being played in our heads that we get lost in a world of shame and doubt and desperately need affirmation. We are so thirsty for genuine affirmation and so are the kids.