It’s difficult to believe that October is here,
and while Thanksgiving and Christmas are just around the corner, there are parents still trying to help their children settle back into the school year. “With all the dynamics our children are facing today, it’s easy for them to get overwhelmed,” – DeVonna Drey, new Children’s Pastor at Church of the Open Door. “As parents, we need to help our children navigate the day-to-day of school and to actually be excited about school and community.”
Though there isn’t a manual outlining the “best steps” every parent should follow to help their children get motivated, involved and overcome fears/obstacles they may face, DeVonna, mom of three and grandmother of three, shares these 5 Points on Helping Your Children Settle Back Into School:
1. Be flexible.
This applies to parents and children alike – things will change rapidly with new school classes and sports. A word of advice – master the mantra: “learn to roll with the punches.”
2. As a family, communicate your faith base.
Talk and pray with your children. Whatever your belief system, engaging in regular conversation with your children and praying for them and with them, are powerful ways to strengthen the parent/child relationship and set the tone for a more peaceful environment.
3. Help your children be good friends and even encourage them to find the kid at school without friends.
Many have seen the picture which recently went viral about the Florida State wide receiver who asked to sit at the table of a boy sitting by himself in the middle school cafeteria. The player, who, along with his football teammates, was visiting the school that day, didn’t know it, but the boy has Autism, which makes it challenging for him to make new friends. A friend sent the picture to the boy’s mother, who was overcome with gratitude for the nice gesture. Teach your children to be brave. The more we give, the more we get. (And, parents remember…children model what they see.)
4. Teach safety points.
It’s important that our children know and understand safety measure caution…at home, at school, in sports and with peers. Take time to talk with your children about what to do in the case of an emergency or at any time they are uncomfortable in any given situation.
5. Be teachable.
This one goes for children and parents alike. Maintaining a desire to keep learning is a life skill we should all nurture. And, keep in mind that it’s okay to fail, too. There’s a lot of learning that happens when we fail and try again!